I am always amazed when I attended a birth and I watch a mom who is beautifully aware of herself and in tune with her labor. Her partner and her have a rhythm. They work together. It’s in those moments that I feel useless. At the end of their journey, they say things like “there is no way we could have done that without you,” and I laugh because that doesn’t seem true... they didn’t need me at all. And that is when I realize, sometimes I am like a nightlight. A laboring mom is often afraid of the unknown, afraid of what to expect, afraid of how to make her desires known. She longs for that extra sense of assurance, that if she needs you, you are there. A doula nightlight. A presence that stands to assure the mother that she is not alone. Sometimes that is all the confidence a mother needs. So, I will be that dimly light presence in the corner of the room, offering assurance and comfort. The occasional word of encouragement, but mostly a quiet presence reminding her she doesn’t need to fear. She has all the strength she needs to accomplish what is set before her. Her partner, who knows her so intimately, also follows his intuition and showers her with adoration and love. It's there in the quiet, that my presence fades gently into the background and I have come to be content there. Birth on beautiful momma... if you need more light, I will shine a little brighter for you. You are not alone. I will be your doula nightlight. Blessings to you! Love, Jillian Not every woman desires so much independence in her birth space, some prefer to rest their heads on my chest between contractions, or that I wrap my arms around them providing counter pressure on their backs, while they labor on the toilet.
No matter your birthing style, all women deserve to feel supported, whether it is all hands on deck, a quiet presence in the background, or perhaps you desire a blend of both. If you are seeking the comfort of support during labor, I would love to serve you. ~Jillian~
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AuthorMy name is Jillian and I am a Doula, Childbirth Educator, Placenta Encapsulator living in the Wilmington, North Carolina. I believe in women and that they deserve support throughout their pregnancy and births no matter what method of birth they desire. I myself am a mother to 4 girls, pregnant with a 5th (that is a boy); each of their births were vastly different. Archives
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